I’ve received a lot of questions regarding my choice of cutting my hair. I’ve been natural for six years now and I guess everyone was accustomed to seeing me with long hair. Truth is, I was never satisfied with it. Of course, I was excited to see my hair gain lengths that I haven’t seen in years, but, I always felt like a short haired girl. Being honest with you guys, that was the real reason I wore a short haired wig on the weekends.
A lot of you guys will never understand why I love short hair. It seems as if these days, we are chasing the long hair dream: let’s go natural to see how long our hair can grow; let’s aspire to have as much hair as possible; let’s get a long and flowing sew in because it makes us feel feminine. I guess, as always, I feel opposite than everyone else. We each have the one thing that makes us feel good about ourselves and for me; it was my hair being short. I’m not saying anything about my longer haired girls…I was doing that for over 4 years. I just became tired of it. I didn’t like the maintenance. I didn’t feel like it was my style.
There were also other things that happened to me during the years that were symbolic of cutting my hair. Cutting my hair was symbolic of letting go of things that I had to let go of that kept me in the same place that I’ve been for so long. After I decided to let go, good things began to happen to me. I was admitted into LSU’s Master of Library and Information Science program, my professional pursuits are coming toward fruition, I was able to purchase a new car and begin work on my home, I finally began my plant-based diet and am able to get my blood glucose numbers within control. I had to let go of a lot of thoughts and feelings that held me back in the past. My hair was one of the things that were holding me back symbolically. If anyone knows what I mean, then you know why I did it. I feel like Kimba…I feel free. I feel like I can conquer anything.
Cutting my hair also forced me to look at myself and know that I am beautiful. I did not have long hair to hide behind. You can actually see my face. I feel more confident now…and since I’ve cut my hair, I get compliments every day about how I look. LOL. You guys know that I do not fish for compliments, but now that I am getting them more than I was before, I have confirmation that this was a good choice.
At the end of the day, I don’t care about the negative comments that I receive about cutting all of my hair off. I know that I have to live with myself and I have to do things that make me happy. I think that we get so caught up with trying to impress other people; we forget that we need to take care of our mental selves. If you are happy with who you are and how you do things and if it is a legitimate form of doing things, then you need to do what makes you happy despite what the masses think. Embarking on your natural hair journey should not be a race to obtain the longest hair; it should be a choice that you make because you are satisfied with your natural beauty. Naturals should not try to conform other naturals to our ideals of beauty…that is hypocritical to the very reason we started on this journey. We should embrace every natural and not be swift to negativity because one person does not think the way that we do. In short, that’s how you turn people off and create a negative experience for the one person who needed the positivity the most.
I’ll just be frank with everyone. I’ll preface by saying I love you guys…but I love my hair the way it is, and negative comments about my flat top fade or shaved head will not do anything to change my mind about my hair. I’m happy now and that’s all that matters. When you keep digging into others for something that they are doing, you need to reflect internally to see why you have this problem. Usually, it’s something that’s within you that you are not satisfied with. If that is the case, strive for satisfaction for self and you will see that is the key to happiness.
Until Next Time,
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